“I got up on the wrong side of bed today.”
“I wish I hadn’t ___________.”
“If only __________, I could be happy.”
What does each of these statements have in common?
They are gigantic negatives; that’s what!
Regret does nothing for your life. You need to turn that regret into opportunity. It’s all in how you look at things.
Don’t Get Stuck In Negative Nellie Mode
It’s so easy to get caught up in a woulda, shoulda, coulda mentality. To berate yourself and find fault with what you have, or haven’t, accomplished.
Here’s a question for you: Do you know a perfect person? Go ahead, look around. Think about it.
I’ll wait. ; – )
Did anyone come to mind?
That’s what I thought.
Far Be It For Me To Nag You, But…
Now, the last thing you need is me — or anyone — jumping all over you because you’re unhappy or may be having a bad day. No one is upbeat every minute of every day.
But your chosen outlook at any given time has a profound effect on how you feel about yourself, your life, your future.
Your day. Today.
It may be cliche, but it’s true; you do get to choose how you see things. You have more power than you think you do.
And that filter you’re looking through? It colors everything you see.
We view our daily experiences through the filter of our mental outlook — our moods, our frame of mind, our expectations.
You name it; you’re filtering it.
But you want to know the good news?
You get to pick the filter! Isn’t that awesome!
It May Not Always Be Easy – But It’s Easier Than You Think
Yes, I know it’s easier said than done. I completely get that it’s not always simple to feel upbeat and positive. We all have down days.
It’s normal. And sometimes a pity party is okay — as long as it doesn’t turn into a week-long marathon!
You have to understand, though, that the choice is yours.
You can wallow in the dregs like a hog in mud. Doesn’t sound appealing, does it?
A better choice would be to pull yourself consciously out of that sticky mud as quickly as possible.
Have you ever been around someone who shoots down every suggestion you make? Who greets every option you suggest with disdain?
Some people have a ready reason they can’t, won’t, shouldn’t do anything you suggest.
It’s exhausting, isn’t it? Downright draining.
You Have To Protect Your Happiness
If you don’t make an escape, and soon, you’re right down there in the doom and gloom with them.
Run! Run as far and as fast as you can.
Don’t surround yourself with negativity. It has a way of trapping you.
We all have things we can look back to in the past that we wish we’d done differently. Decisions we wish we’d made, or in some cases, not made.
Paths we believe would have been better. Easier. Happier.
Hindsight is always 20/20. What seems clear now was wrapped in fog before. Impossible to see without the perspective of time.
It’s not until you’ve distanced yourself a bit that you can stop and look.
But instead of dwelling on the past, and what might have been, use this moment, right now, as the starting point for a whole new attitude.
It doesn’t matter what happened yesterday, last week, last month or last year.
The only thing that matters is this moment, right now.
What Will You Do To Make Today Awesome?
How will you flip that switch from dim to radiant?
You can do it! Here are some ideas to get you started:
Take a walk, clear your head.
It’s simple, yes, but oh so good for the soul. Listen to the birds singing in the trees, feel the breeze flowing through your hair. If you can pick a quiet place, filled with nature, all the better. It does wonders for your peace of mind.
Look in the mirror and smile at yourself.
Even if it feels forced at first, it’s pretty hard to smile for very long and not begin actually to feel the smile. You might even laugh. Your mood lifts right along with the corners of your mouth. Try it!
Call a friend and chat.
Talking to a good friend can be a great salve for the spirit. Just be careful that you don’t wallow in self-pity and have a downer conversation. Ask your friend how she’s doing. Even if she’s struggling with something, helping her work it out will lift you both up. Friends are great for helping you find your smile.
Write in a journal and list the good things in your life.
Even if you don’t like to write, no one will see what you’ve written but you. There’s something very therapeutic about putting on paper what’s in your head that’s dragging you down. It’s like removing a weight. It works. Give it a try.
Stop negative self-talk.
I bet you don’t realize how much your self-talk drags you down. You probably don’t think you do it. But it’s all too easy to use phrases like, “I’m fat,” or I’m stupid.” They may seem harmless, but they program your thinking. Start catching yourself uttering these phrases and turn them around on their heads. You’ll feel better, and you’ll begin reprogramming your brain, in a good way.
Small Steps Add Up To Big Changes
These are just some small steps you can begin to take.
Just remember to be kind to yourself. Cut yourself the same slack you would others.
Look around at all that is good.
Start looking at what’s possible, instead of what seems hard.
Start right now.
Start living your radiant life!
You deserve it!
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